What is the first thing you think about when you hear the word BEAUTY?! I know what I think of…the media’s version of a beautiful woman; tall skinny (skin and bones), (white) with bleach blonde hair or with extremely big boobs, extremely round and massive bottom, slim waist with flat stomach (black) with hair dats all straight and nice and real.
You might think that I’m being DRAMATIC about this but its true. As a size 18 girl who doesn’t have the above features, I feel constantly accused of being ugly because of the way that women are perceived in the media. Shouldn’t beauty be about who you are inside? Lord knows I’m not ugly but still it seems its not enough; I need to be the size 14 desirable woman that is shown on magazine covers/TV screens and showing off various parts of my body while I am at it.
ROFL…sorry but I had to laugh at that! I love the way I am and I don’t feel inferior to those girls because most of them have to get photoshoped to look to perfection, where as I am the perfect me I don’t have to pretend to be. I get spots, I probably dribble when I sleep, I am extraordinarily perfectly imperfect and that’s the way I will forever stay.
I refuse to feel adequate to the fake/plastic perception of the media’s “beauty”. Being half naked on TV is appealing to the immoral; I am not immoral. I know that I am 100% real and looking at the surgically nipped and tucked; I feel no way. Plastic is in but it seems that I am out because I am real and not fake but I would rather stick out like a sore thumb than conform to society’s norm.
The norm these days is to show off as much of your body as possible but girls please tell me what is that going to achieve from you? That guy that you’ve had your eye one for sooo long? Because he would be your guy for a year? Right? You two together..a couple of arguments here and there? Yes, because they ok. You convince yourself its healthy to fight everyday right?
What happened to doing something for yourself to make yourself happy? A guys isn’t going to love or look after you if you do not do it for yourself. You do know that right? (I think I’ve over used the word right but still….you’re WRONG you’re setting yourself up for failure; don’t you want your relationships to work?)
And guys…respecting a girl to not have her try to be like Beyonce or Rihanna because you need to get it through your head she will never be like them. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, yes, but if your perception of beauty is degrading others then I’m sorry but this needs to change.
Beauty for me is the inside because when you know someone properly you get to see their true beauty. As the outward beauty fades away until it goes that beauty within stays forever.
If you rely on your looks you will die with your beauty when it goes; focus on yourself on your inside and seek to change it. This is for both guys and girls; being beautiful on the inside shows on the outside. Plant good fruits and you shall reap them in the end.
Ask God to help you with this, at the UCKG helpcenter; I learnt that beauty is not skin deep but its inside you. Beauty comes from within and it was God who put it there. Embrace the woman/man God made you.
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Constantly praying for you, God bless
